Caregiver Speaker, Elaine K. Sanchez, http://www.elaineksanchez.com/ talks about how the death of a beloved pet influenced how she chose to say to goodbye to her mother.
One way to take care of yourself as a caregiver is to make sure you say everything you want your loved ones to know before they die. Forgiving old misunderstandings and grudges, expressing love and gratitude, and giving them the opportunity to express their feelings about death can help our care receiver end his/her life well. It not only helps the care receiver die with a peaceful heart, it also helps the caregiver go forward in his/her life without regrets.
Grief is a complicated process, and each person’s experience with the loss of a loved one is unique. There is nothing anyone can do to eliminate the pain and sadness associated with the death of someone we care about, but when there is nothing left unsaid or undone, the healing process can be much easier.